Siblings – love them or hate them – they matter

Date: 25 February 2023
Location: Auckland
Workshop

Faye will run a full day workshop in cooperation with the Astrology Foundation NZ.

 

Saturday 25th Feb 2023 – Auckland

The relationships formed with siblings can indicate how we relate to members of our own peer group. Much attention has been given to parent-child contacts, but sibling dynamics are equally important. Studying these factors can be valuable in improving both relationships with siblings and with our peers and intimate partners. Although it is often said that ‘we marry our mother/father’,  it may perhaps be more accurate in some cases to say that ‘we marry our brother/sister’. We will use Inner Child techniques to highlight patterns so bring your horoscopes with Koch Houses so we can discuss your own examples. No brothers and sisters?  This workshop is still relevant!

To join us see AFI site

Faye will also give a talk on the Quintile series on Sunday 26th Feb in Auckland.

Quick intro:

 

A longer description

The importance of sibling relationships and the connection with astrology.

Although much has been written about relationships with our parents and the influence they can have on current relationships with partners and friends, little has been written on the connection between relationships with siblings and our present situation. Howard Sasportas, a well-known astrologer, was of the opinion that “astrologers will find it useful to question clients about early sibling relationships…” and in my experience this is certainly the case.

Using the horoscope as a guide, one can begin to see what patterns have been formed by these early relationships. Siblings are important because they share our past, our inheritance.  They witness our childhood and are often our only life-long relationships.  By learning how to deal with a difficult sister or a sick brother, we learn how to deal with our peers. But more importantly we form expectations about our peer group.  It is more likely, if we have had a difficult relationship with a sister that we will expect difficulties, although unconsciously, from our woman peers.  From a sick brother we may find ourselves always looking after men in our environment.

Brian Clark has written an excellent book on this topic, “The Sibling Constellation”,  and he refers mainly to the houses and rulers, and the placement of Mercury. I have researched this and as well as looking at these topics I have explored the aspects with Mercury in more depth.  Often I have found each aspect to represent one particular brother or sister.  I have noticed too that a retrograde Mercury often seems to signify more difficult relationships in general between siblings, as does a chart where the Sun and Mercury are in different signs, but as with all astrology this is by no means a rule.  This depends very much on the level of consciousness that one has.

In any event studying these factors can be valuable in improving both relationships with siblings and with our peers and intimate partners. Although it is often said that “we marry our mother/father”,  it may perhaps be more accurate in some cases to say that “we marry our brother/sister”.

The connection between Mercury and siblings, comes from the connection between Apollo and Mercury who were half brothers. In the beginning this was a difficult relationship for Apollo, as Mercury was up to his usual tricks, but eventually the relationship improved.  Perhaps by considering what we want (Sun) and discovering what we think (Mercury) about our siblings, we can improve current issues with our peers.  It is interesting that Mercury rules our opinions and these we can change.

Another idea that can be interesting to explore, is how a brother or sister experiences you, by investigating the aspects he or she has in the horoscope. This can bring surprising insight, as how we see each other may vary widely.  Which aspect do you think you represent?  Which one do they think you represent, if you can ask this?  Is there a pattern and if so how does it repeat in your life now?

If you have no siblings this workshop is still relevant. We have an inner pattern of the idea of siblings. And the fact that you don’t have a sister or a brother also colours your relationships with peers.

These ideas will all be explored in the workshop given by Faye …